I get it. We’re all busy, and tired, and burnt out – from work, from family, from life. So we end up doing nothing at home except doom scrolling social media, or binge watching the latest show for four hours. Then we sit around depressed that we have no life, no friends, no goals. Welcome to adulthood.

One of the most common complaints I hear is how there’s never enough time to get things done. There’s always piles of laundry that need folding, tons of dishes that need washing, and plenty of paperwork that should’ve been looked at weeks ago. On one hand there’s never enough time to do the things you need to do, but somehow 10 minutes on your phone turns into an hour of brain fog that leaves you more tired afterwards.

Do I have sympathy for these people? No. This is the same attitude as not exercising and complaining that you’re out of shape and how stairs are the bane of your existence. No effort equals no results. Simple as that. One of the most difficult things that people can’t wrap their head around is: as an adult, you are solely responsible for yourself. There’s no elementary teacher sitting in the front of the room telling you how to behave, or coach yelling at you to “keep it going!” or anybody out there who’s responsibility is to take care of you. Because guess what? Everybody is busy trying to take care of themselves first!

Life is hard. You have responsibilities and obligations. Either you do them or you don’t. Either way, you deal with the consequences of your decisions. Me? I personally spend an hour every day tackling basic chores – washing clothes, doing the dishes, responding to emails. In truth, I’m always playing catch up because there’s always something that needs my attention. However, I don’t blame everything and everybody around me for my current situation. As a reminder to myself “If I don’t do it, it won’t get done.”